Tips dating widowers

Relationships with widowers can be tempestuous, but if he is truly ready for a new relationship, you may find that the widower can be the partner that you need -- and more.

Widowed men are prone to jumping into new relationships too quickly, says widower Abel Keogh, in the first chapter of his book "Dating a Widower." Widowers may be seeking companionship, sex or a feeling of normalcy after the death of a spouse -- and will be less discriminating in who they choose to spend time with.

Also, if the person was terminally ill and that illness took a long time to run it’s course, the widowed person may have done a lot of grieving prior to the actual occurrence of death and might be ready to date earlier than ‘the experts’ predict.

For me, it was 18 months before I considered dating again.

Resist the urge, says Keogh, and let the man take the initiative to contact you and arrange dates.